‘Looking For A Good Time, Not A Long Time’ – Love’s New Motto?
It’s Feb. Which means that Valentine’s Day is around the corner and thousands of lovebirds worldwide are ready for it, or not, and us singletons prepare to dwell on the fact that we are alone. Or at least that is what Hollywood wants us to think. So what is the point of this day when you can have anyone you want at a swipe and practically everyone on your screen is ‘looking for a good time, not a long time’?
Well, it isn’t that big of a deal. It’s supposedly a day to celebrate love, so let’s do that. For the past few years, my girlfriends have been the best dates on Valentine’s Day. We stay in and watch Netflix, we go out for a fancy dinner, we go to the cinema to watch a romance film. But most importantly, we spend it together, having fun and enjoying life as it comes. I appreciate those little moments when we take a break from our lives to celebrate our love, not only on Valentine’s day.
So I guess the point of this day is to remind us that love exists, and it is everywhere. Dating apps are not going to change that. As long as you are being honest with what you want, it shouldn’t be such a big deal. If you are looking for a hookup, do it. If you are already casually dating someone, do it. If you are in a relationship, do it. And if you just want to have fun on your own, do that too! Just let them know you appreciate them, for whatever they are to you.
Yes, socially we have commitment issues, not only romantically but in life, too. We are afraid to settle because we think there is always something better, that the grass is greener on the other side. And we don’t feel connected. With a person, with a job, with a place, the list goes on. But it takes time. Everything is a process, and every person has their own pace. So enjoy it everyday. Today, tomorrow, on February 14th. The key is in enjoying the ride.